It never occurred to me that my dear friend’s husband would be diagnosed with cancer, or any other life threatening illness for that matter. That only happens to other people. He has a beautiful wife and three wonderful children that are by his side and in his thoughts every waking minute. The dad, husband, son, brother, friend…so full of life a month ago, is now in a bed waiting for good news from the doctors. Life is all about recovery isn’t it? “Hope”, isn’t that what victims of cancer do, “hope” for recovery and a chance for their life back?
The doctors came in with news that no one was anticipating and none of us was ready for. The cancer spread throughout his body and he has been given six to nine months to live. There is still so much to do. So many things left undone, that “time” hasn’t allowed to happen yet. There are so many life lessons and experiences that need to be shared. So much wisdom to allocate, and now so little time to do it.
The feeding tubes go in tomorrow and everyone is optimistic that it will give him strength. Does he have a choice how he wants to use his remaining strength that he has fought so hard for? If he could he would finish his life long goals. He would see his son graduate from college and live his dream. He would be a loving mentor to his twin girls as they begin their life’s journey. He would spend time at his new home with his wife as first year retirees and empty nesters. He would golf, fish and hike with friends and family. However, if he were strong enough, he could begin chemotherapy treatments. Unfortunately, the doctors said the chemo treatments would not kill all the cancer.
Yet there is still hope for a recovery. Lots of cancer patients are given a life expectancy and live well beyond it. I’m not certain what the statistics are but he will surely be one of them. It’s hard to remain positive when you’ve been given six to nine months to live, but there is always the prospect of life and the hope for a better day. When things get tough, stop for a moment and reflect on all of the blessings in your life. Appreciate your family, your achievements and your life and never take for granted the time you have to live it.