October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. It’s a time to bring awareness to pregnancy loss and grief. Bridgette shares some tips from her own personal journey to find comfort and healing.
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
October is a month of many national days and is a month with many awareness’s. One of them being Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness. As a mom that has suffered through this, and at times still suffers from the aftermath of it, I still have my moments where it can be a struggle. Over on my personal blog, I have shared my story before and you can read it here.
While it’s nice to hear one’s story for a little comfort or support knowing you are not alone, it still takes time to heal and fully move on. After having a miscarriage during my second pregnancy, I have found ways to keep a positive outlook on our loss and heal from the pain of losing a child.
Talk about it
One thing that keeps me at peace is talking about it. When you go through something as painful as losing a child or anyone for that matter, keeping your emotions bottled up will never allow you to fully heal.
Accepting the fact that your precious baby won’t be in your arms hurts. But once you are able to accept that fact, you will be able to move on with your life. I know firsthand this is easier said than done. It took me a while to accept this fact and it even made me ponder the thought that I was done with wanting to have another child. I wasn’t sure if I was emotionally ready to take that chance again. Thankfully I was.
Whatever you believe in or whoever you believe in, faith is always important. Have faith that you will heal, have faith that it will get easier to move on, have faith that when the time is right you will be able to conceive, adopt or accept your life for the way it is. Having faith brings more than hope to your life, it shines a light at the end of any tunnel.
You are not alone
Remember your spouse through this time. They suffered a loss as well so even if they are not showing it, there is hurt there as well. My husband isn’t an emotional guy…. at all. But I could tell there was some disappointment and shock during the first week. Checking on him and how he was handling it made me “forget” about my pain for a moment. As women, we are natural nurturers, so when I wasn’t focused on what I was feeling but my husband or daughters I was able to laugh. I think that was one of the things that helped me the most, laughing with my Thai every day.
Share your experience
According to hopexchange.com, anywhere from 900,000 to 1 million women suffer from a miscarriage each year. Sharing your experience with those that are recovering from a miscarriage or having a difficult time moving forward can not only help them heal, but help you as well. When I first opened up about my loss last year, I had a flood of messages and comments thanking me for sharing my story. It even encouraged a few others to speak up and raise awareness. Once again, feeling like I was helping someone too the focus off my pain.
Losing a child will always be something that takes time to heal. When you think about your future, you never plan to have a miscarriage or give birth to a child that has already passed. So, taking the time to spread awareness and open up about the pain you feel are just stepping stones to a full recovery. It has been 7 years since I lost my baby and honestly it took years to be able to talk about it without crying. From time to time, I still feel that pain again, but my heart has healed, my life continues and I love and appreciate having my 4 kids even more knowing that I have been blessed to be their mother for even 1 day.
For help with healing and encouragement, you can visit the Hope Exchange website for articles and support.
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