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When It’s Your Turn To Be The Caregiver

What do you do when it’s your turn to be the caregiver to your parents?  Connie, from the iFamily Mom & Dad Squad shares what it means to care for your parents in times of need.

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Taking Care of Your Parents in Times of Need

July is always my favorite month of the year because, during that particular month, summer is in full swing, fireworks are exploding, my birthday is the 5th, with my son and my mother’s following later in the month.  It’s something I look forward to every year.  This year was no exception.  I had birthday week plans, and 4th of July plans, and my son’s birthday plans, and ideas for my mother’s birthday as well.  There were tons of items left on my kids’ summer fun list that I had planned on getting checked off.  We were so ready for July.

What I wasn’t ready for was spending 8 days in the hospital when my mother got so sick she almost died.

I am one of those weirdos who has always been close with my mother.  Even in those moody, yucky, I hate everyone teenage years, she and I were best friends.  My friends loved her, many of them preferring to hang out at our house, rather than their own.  She always has my back, no matter what the situation.  And I always knew, no matter what, my mother would take care of me.  Not in the “I don’t want to grow up and deal with adult responsibilities” type of take care of me, but in the “I just need my mom right now” type of way.

She was there.

She was there for our 2 am chats when I cried with my head in her lap over my latest break up, there to walk me down the aisle at my wedding, there to coach and then watch every volleyball game I played until I landed a college scholarship.  My mom would bring me soup to work when I wasn’t feeling well.  She came to the hospital immediately when I was there waiting on a scan of my swollen leg when I was pregnant.

Whatever direction life took me I could always go confidently, knowing she was going to be there to help me get through it.

I feel like I returned the favor.  When my grandmother passed away after a long battle with ovarian cancer I was there with my mom .  I flew with her to Virginia when my uncle died.  I had seen my mother when she was weak and vulnerable emotionally and we got through it together.  But I had never been faced with my mother needing me to take care of her physically.  I had never had to help make medical decisions, or be there to talk her through the latest round of tests, or help her talk to the multiple specialists who paraded through her hospital room that week.

My mother almost died.

I still have a hard time admitting that to myself.  Looking back on it now, it still makes me shudder.  My strong, funny, young, vibrant mother almost died.  And my entire world was rocked.  If we hadn’t gotten to the hospital when we did, this would be an entirely different post.

I found myself dealing with every emotion I had.  Mad because she didn’t tell me how bad she felt before we went to the hospital and scared to death of losing her.  So much so that I was shaking.  I was confused by what was happening and the multiple diagnoses that kept coming in.  I was stressed because I had two kids at home that I was supposed to be taking care of, but I knew she needed me there.

And I was overwhelmed.  I was completely overwhelmed by her needing me.

She needed me there to keep her calm, she needed me there to help her keep track of all the treatments and issues and tests, she needed me there to comfort her and tell her everything was going to be okay.  The person who had always helped me deal with life when it got overwhelming was now the person who was causing me to feel overwhelmed.  It was time for me to take over that caregiver role and do what she needed me to do.

I became the parent.

I took care of her.  Holding her hand.  Sleeping on the loudest, most uncomfortable cot on the planet because nights were the hardest for her.  Swallowing every fear, every worry, every doubt and I put on a brave face.  Because I knew, if the roles were reversed she would do it for me.   I vented to my husband and fell apart in the car or in my brief breaks from the hospital, counted on my friends to help me with the kids and to be there if I needed anything.  Always reminding myself that the time spent with her at the hospital was extra time we got to spend together.  We managed to laugh through the chaos and rejoice in the small victories and improvements.

Once she left the hospital, my mother came and lived with us for 5 weeks.  She needed some extra help to get through the day.  She needed me and my little family to keep her motivated and focused on getting better.

Usually, as an adult, your parent moving in sounds like a nightmare.

For us it was such a blessing. 

My kids loved waking up knowing that Grandma was there.  She cooked some of my favorite meals for us when she was feeling good enough to be up and around.  She would make sure the kids stayed quiet and entertained so that my husband and I could sleep in.  And I got to watch her get better.  I got to see her get stronger and healthier and happier every day.  I got to slowly switch back to just being her daughter and not constantly worrying about every ache and pain she had.  And she got to see that she is stronger than she gives herself credit for.

As awful as that time in the hospital was, and as overwhelmed as I felt, I wouldn’t change it.  She taught me everything I know, and I got to show her just a fraction of the strength and care she has shown me in my life.  I hope to not have to face another illness with her for a long time, but getting through this one showed me that I can do it and I like to think it showed her that she can too.  It made me appreciate her even more and caused us to become closer than ever.  I still panic just a bit when she calls sometimes, and we’re still adjusting to time without her here, but I’m excited for the new normal with my healthier, stronger mom.

From iFamily to Yours,


Giving Back In The Wake Of A Tragedy

Tales of destruction from Hurricanes Harvey and Irma have dominated the news cycle over the past couple of weeks.  Our hearts are broken as we hear stories of those who have lost homes and loved ones in the path of these violent storms.  But there is a secondary group of stories that inevitably comes out of these tragedies.  The stories of the hometown heroes who risk life and limb to save their neighbors.  These stories capture our hearts, and renew hope in the human spirit.  Gabrielle, from the iFamily Mom and Dad Squad is here to show us why giving back is so important.

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Giving Back in the Wake of Tragedy

While my family and I cannot afford to go to coastal regions and help with the clean-up efforts, there are things we can do here in our own hometown to be a blessing to our friends and neighbors who are down on their luck.  Here are few ideas you might want to try.

Volunteering at a local food pantry

Local pantries are always look for groups to help them serve.  They are also looking for volunteers to help them clean and organize their pantries.  Even the little ones can help.  When my daughter was about four, she was given the job of passing out salt and pepper in the dining room of one of the local shelters.  She felt like she had the most important job in the world, and it gave the residents a good chuckle to see her tiny little hands handing them their condiments.

Ronald McDonald House

This charity houses families whose loved ones are being treated at Children’s Mercy Hospital.  These families are often strapped for cash as they have to cover medical costs and transportation.  Many of these families are from out-of-state.  As such, the Ronald McDonald House is usually looking for groups who are willing to cook and serve families who are temporarily housed in their facilities.  This can be costly, as several families are housed in each unit.  Each volunteer group is responsible for providing the meal, as well as preparing the meal and cleaning up after.  It is best to do this activity with a larger group.  I recommend joining with a social or church group when taking on this endeavor.

Donating Toys to a Women’s Shelter

Women who leave abusive homes often leave home with nothing but their children and the clothes on their backs.  The children, who are already facing a traumatic situation, have little to comfort them.  This is when your child’s barely and rarely touched toys come in handy.  That old teddy bear that’s been sitting on the bookshelf untouched for the last six months could provide a hug to some child in desperate need of unconditional love.

Shirley Chisholm, a personal hero of mine, said, “Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.”  Teaching our children to serve others will undoubtedly impact them.  Serving with our children will undoubtedly impact the world, even if it is just a small corner of it.

From iFamily to Yours,

Gabrielle

 


Ways You Can Help Texas Recover From Hurricane Harvey

The devastating news of Hurricane Harvey down in Texas has hit close to home for many of us.  Being so far away can leave us feeling helpless and wondering what we could be doing to help.  Bridgette, from the iFamily Mom & Dad Squad, is a Texas Native.  She’s here with some suggestions on ways to give and support the victims of Hurricane Harvey!

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Here Are Some WaysThat KC Can Be #TexasStrong

 

As someone that considers herself both a Kansas Citian and Texan, this post is extremely difficult for me to write. Last week, family and friends of my family and possibly yours have been hit hard by the result of Hurricane Harvey. What started out as a mere “tropical storm” quickly escalated to a category 4 hurricane. This unfortunate event has displaced many, many people. Young, old, rich, poor, black or white.. people have been stranded, displaced and worst of all separated from their families or lost loved ones.

Being here in Kansas City and not close to my family and friends during this time has really been hard to process and unsettling. But thankfully there are several organizations around the city that are accepting donations to send to all of the victims in Houston and surrounding cities.

This week you can do what you can by sending items that are in great need. Remember, these people have had their homes destroyed and possibly only have the clothes on their back. Here are a few items that are in great need:

Kids:

Diapers

Wipes

Formula

Rash Cream

Baby Shampoo/ Powder

Clothes

Shoes

Socks/ underwear

Coats

Adults:

Clothes

Shoes

Socks

Coats

Under garments

Care:

Toothpaste/ Toothbrush

Shampoo & conditioner

Deodorant

Feminine Hygiene products

Combs/ brushes

Blankets

Towels/ wash rags

Soap

Pillows and more..

 

Not sure where to donate?  Try considering these options.

Red Cross:

You can text REDCROSS to 90999 to give $10 to American Red Cross Disaster Relief or visit them online at https://www.redcross.org/donate/hurricane-harvey for proceeds to go strictly to Harvey Victims

 

VFW

You can join with the VFW and show your support by making a $10 donation to the VFW’s relief efforts by texting the keyword “NEEDS” to 27722, or mail in your donation of any amount to: VFW Quartermaster General, 406 W 34th Street, Kansas City, MO 64111. All funds raised will be distributed to veterans, military personnel and their families of affected by Hurricane Harvey

 

These metro business have also joined the cause and are accepting donations at the locations listed below:

180v Barber Salon

1805 vine st Kansas City MO, 64108

Tues-Sat 9am-7pm

 

4th Down Grill

6607 Parallel Pkwy Kansas city KS 66106

Tues-Sat 9am-7pm

 

The Powder Room Makeup & skincare studio

8600 w 95th street suite 104-5

Overland Park Ks

Mon-Sat 2:30-6pm

 

Let’s stand together and show our support from afar by helping those in need.

From iFamily to Yours,

 


Make Yourself A Morning Mom!

Some mornings are just plain hard.  Hard to get out of bed, hard to mom, hard to anything.  You are not alone!  Make yourself a morning mom with these great tips from Liz, with our iFamily Mom Squad!

Make Yourself a Morning Mom!

Do you have those mornings where the blankets have taken them as one of you and you would do anything to turn the clock back 2 hours?

I recently have been trying daily to make myself a “morning person”. I have had my struggles it’s and not something I really enjoy doing, but I love the feeling of having woke early before anyone else. The feeling I love even more is getting ahead of the day before I hear the pitter patter of feet. I want to share some snooze- proof tips on making waking up easier than ever before.

Give yourself a reason to wake up early:

Plan to do something you love during your early mornings. My favorites are getting in a workout, reading a few pages of a really good book and enjoying my coffee alone. The night before I layout my clothes and my at home workout program is in the DVD player ready to press play. I am a nursing mama to a 3 month old so my pump and my book waiting for me. And most importantly the coffee cup is sitting under the Kurig ready to press start.

Every night before bed consciously decided to have a positive morning experience.

Move Your Alarm Clock Across The Room:

If you haven’t already, try moving your alarm clock as far from your bed as possible. This will force your body out of bed and to get moving. Motion creates energy and this movement will help you naturally wake up.

Another idea is to buy an old fashioned digital clock. This will help from grabbing your phone and start the mindless scrolling on Facebook (guilty).

Start your day with mindless activities:

Doing a few mindless activities will give your body time to wake up. Go straight to your bathroom sink, brush your teeth and splash some water on your face. This simple activity will increase your wake up motivation to start your day.

Feeling even a little dehydrated can cause fatigue, so make sure you hydrate yourself first thing every morning to get your body and mind going. Try drinking warm lemon water in the morning to help flush the digestive system and hydrate the body. Lemons contain Vitamin C and drinking it in the morning gives the body a chance to absorb these vitamins and provide a little immune boost. Have you ever heard the quote “I exercise before my brain knows what I am doing”? Yep, this is the best time to get that workout done when you are in the mindless phase.

Don’t wait to try this! Start tonight by moving your alarm clock across the room, setting a glass of water on your nightstand and commit to your early morning rising! Try just waking up a few more minutes each morning and set the tone for a more peaceful, organized and productive day.

From iFamily to Yours,

 


The Newlyweds Guide To The First Few Years

The wedding bells have rung, Now what!?  Here is Sarah, from the iFamily Mom Squad, with her Newlyweds Guide to the First Few Years!  Take a look…

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A Newlyweds Guide to the First Few Years…

Summer is almost over and it seems that most of the summer was spent at weddings, wedding showers or engagement parties! This got me to thinking that all you newlyweds out there may need some advice from someone who has been there!

Seems like the most amazing moment in your life doesn’t it? You have walked down the aisle, you had the most expensive cake that you will ever eat and shuddered as some just ate the icing and threw the rest away. You opened all the presents, the thank-you cards are addressed and sent.

Now what?

You are sitting on the couch with this person with whom you had it all figured out just a few weeks ago and bam! You don’t know what to do now! It’s called the coming down; suddenly your single friends are a little more hesitant to hang out with you. Your married friends are so happy for you both and “let’s do dinner” or “movie night at our house” seems to be the norm. Plus they just announced that they are pregnant! Which really means in bed by 9 and it really isn’t the same when you host a “mock”tail party. A caveat; I am no expert. My only expertise is that I was a newlywed once and maybe picked up a few things along the way. And maybe this will sound nothing like you and your spouse and that’s fine too. Still, read it for just the humor and the fact that you can laugh at all the poor souls that are going through this while you are out at the new club opening with your husband in tow!

Remember when

…you were just dating and the question at every family holiday was “when are you getting engaged!” “You know, you aren’t getting any younger! What are you waiting for?!” You could laugh them off and look into your spouse’s eyes and laugh as you are pinning wedding ring designs to your secret Pinterest board. Well now comes the question; “When are you guys going to have a baby!?” “You know, you aren’t getting any younger! What are you waiting for?!” Here is your first tip: DON’T RUSH THINGS. I know you aren’t getting any younger, I know that your biological clock is no longer ticking, it is now banging so loud in your head that you can’t sleep at night. Just like you did before; laugh it off. Spend time with you and your spouse, if babies are in your future, you will NEVER get this opportunity again so enjoy it. Travel to places that you have never been, redecorate the house together, go see an afternoon movie—just go see a movie! And if that biological gong is still going off, get a dog, a puppy if possible. One sleepless night of taking the whining puppy out every two hours will shatter that thing within a day.

So what?

Some little elves on a break from the North Pole came down and rebuilt that biological clock (gong)? Talk about it; make sure you are all on the same page. And then talk about it with a close friend, preferably one that has already had a baby. Let them tell you how it was for them and what to expect. I would bet you a jar of pickles and a tub of ice cream that you don’t know everything about it! And then you can start trying to have a baby.

Here’s your second tip:

DON’T RUSH IT! I am the biggest control freak, I just knew that I could plan everything out: when I would get pregnant, which would lead to when I had the baby (not in July—too many holidays and birthdays) which would mean that I would need baby showers in February and May taking the most pictures at the one in February because you are still in the “glow” and not so much in the “I am ready for this child to come out of me—somehow—I don’t care how!” phase (Every woman gets there, don’t even try to tell me you don’t!) But you know what all that planning does? It makes for a really rough time when that timeline doesn’t work out. Even worse when it doesn’t happen in two months, in 8 months, in a year. You feel worthless, like you have no idea what you are doing and how to fix it. What if there is something wrong? What if I am not making the right decision? You know why that happens? Because this is exactly what motherhood is like! Get used to it kiddo—this is your life for a really long time! It will happen and if it doesn’t there are plenty of other options to make sure that your little family is complete. They just may not be as you planned it.

The world works in mysterious ways…

It takes all kinds of kinds to make it spin round. All along the first years of marriage be thankful for what you have. Once the pitter patter, by the way whoever said that never had kids, I have never known my children to pitter patter at anything! It used to be that silence was golden to me, now silence means that there is a jar of finger nail polish all over the little sister and the dog and the walls. Anyway, when little ones come it is going to be harder for you to remember to be thankful—not that you aren’t, just you will be busy trying to do everything else.

From iFamily to Yours,
 

Tips to Surviving the First Week Back At School

Summer has come and gone and Back to School time is here once again!  Getting back into the routine of begining a school day can be a little chaotic that first few weeks… Liz, from the iFamily Mom Squad, is here with some tips on Surviving the First Week Back to School!

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TIPS TO SURVIVING THE FIRST WEEK BACK AT SCHOOL

The lazy days of summer are fading away and the mornings will now be filled with school runs, finding lost shoes and attempting to get out the door on time.  Thankfully, it does not have to be as stressful as it could be.

Here are a few tips on surviving the first week back at school!

Make Ahead Dinners

One of my favorite things to do to add ease to our evening is freeze dinners ahead of time! Take time to make your families favorite meals or make extra portions in the days leading up to school. Cooking dinner will be one thing you can check off of your to do list!

Plan Lunches

Plan your child’s lunches for the week ahead and stock the fridge accordingly, eliminating any unnecessary shopping trips. Even better, have your kiddos help you with your list (with guidelines, of course). If buying lunch is an option, give them a chance to choose a “special day” to buy lunch.

Plan your outfits the night before

…even for you mom! It seems so easy, but I think we forget how this little step can make the morning routine a breeze.

Give your kiddos a to-do list in the morning!

Make a chart that will make it fun getting all tasks their completed. Getting dressed, brushing teeth, eating breakfast and gathering up their jacket, lunch and book bag!

Homework Space

Make a dedicated homework space so your child knows exactly where they should do their school work each day. This should be an area separate from the TV or any other distractions. Another idea is to set them up in the kitchen next to you while you are reheating your freezer dinner or making lunches for school tomorrow, because you are on top of it mom!

Start the first days of school with a positive outlook!

You could make your kiddo their favorite breakfast while talking with them about their first days of school. Take advantage of this time and ask them about what they are looking forward to about their day. Also, make sure to check in at the end of the day and ask specific questions about school. This also helps out in case you need to make any changes in their routines.

Whether your kiddo is starting a whole new school or just jumping up a grade we need to remind our kids that everything is going to be ok and we have their backs.  Give them your time, attention and extra hugs this week.  I hope this has given you some ideas and inspiration for starting school on the right foot.   Have a great first week back to school!

From iFamily to Yours,

 


Fun Things To Do When Your Little One Is Sick

Having a sick kid is never fun!  Ruth, from the iFamily Mom Squad, shows us how with a little creativity and a lot of TLC you can make sick time for your little one a little easier for everyone.  Take a look…

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Fun things to do when your little one is sick

It can be a challenge to keep a sick toddler happy when they aren’t feeling well. Short from the usual chicken soup and a movie, what else can you do? You could pull out a board game but it probably won’t hold attention long. You could teach them to write a sonnet, but that’s probably a bit too hard.  What about buying them a pile of snacks and gifts? That isn’t really practical and will appease them for about 5 minutes.

Here are a few ideas to keep your kiddos happy when they’re not feeling their best!

In our house crafts are a winner.  They don’t really care what kind. Hand them a piece of paper and water colors or crayons. Anything they can create with works well. Kids love making their own projects. ALL BY THEM SELF! The best part is they will come up with their own plan, no directions needed.

Another option is a sing-a-long dance party if they are up for it. We love to dance around and sing in the living room. I will play a variety of songs and we have a great time. It’s fun and exercise for Mommy too!

Play dough is always a huge hit. If the prepackaged stuff is dried out, or you simply don’t have any..there is an alternative. You can make some homemade dough.  There are many recipes online but I prefer recipes that are baby safe since we all know kids like to put things in their mouths. I found a recipe on the website powerfulmothering.com that has a great recipe for cloud dough that is edible for little ones. The ingredients are simple, flour and cooking oil. I switched mine up for texture and with a sensory component using coconut oil and sprinkles for fun. Then we mix it all together and it becomes very malleable so they can mold with cookie cutters or containers with lots of fun! If you want to see the full recipe check out HERE.

Options for keeping you little one happy at home are pretty much endless with the click of the internet. These ideas can get you started. What else have you tried at home?

From iFamily To Yours,

 


Dear Hostess with the Mostest

We all know one.  The picture perfect version of what a mom is “supposed to be”.  So, why is it that so many of us have a hard time relating to ‘that’ mom?  Here’s Gabrielle, from the iFamily Mom Squad with the question we all want to ask… “Have you ever made an adult version of that party punch?”

 

Dear Hostess with the Mostest:

Those cupcakes you made for your daughter’s birthday were divine, and you decorated them perfectly.  Who would have ever thought to arrange all the cupcakes in the shape of a tiara?  Everything was picture perfect.  You are so effortlessly creative.  I have no idea how you manage to pull all these ideas together.   I would  ask you what your secret is, but I have a secret of my own.  My secret is that I don’t care.

Don’t get me wrong.  I love attending your parties.  Your “party punch” is legendary .  The food is always delicious, and the decorations make all your guests feel like royalty.  The truth is, I could never be the hostess that you are.  The truth is I would never try.

I have a Pinterest account, but I’ve never attempted a single thing on any of the 5 personalized boards I’ve created.  I have seen pictures of those epic Pinterest fails, and I truly believe I could top every single one of them.   I see a soufflé that didn’t quite rise, and I think, “That’s still  better than the premixed cookie dough that I burned to a crisp last month.”

I did not get the baking gene, or the decorating gene.( I do, however, make a decent party punch.) I am more than happy to have all of my  parties catered by the closest pizza chain.  Our cupcakes come from the bakery at our favorite grocery store and if I buy any decorations at all, they are probably coming from the dollar store around the corner.

Because our kids are the same age, we will probably be touring the birthday circuit together.  I appreciate your attention to detail at your own kid’s party, but please don’t point out that the race car birthday banner doesn’t really match the ninja- themed plates at someone else’s party.  Instead, just try to enjoy your lukewarm pizza served on plain white Styrofoam and the not quite cold soda served in the matching cup.  The birthday parties are for the kids, and if we put enough ketchup on the Styrofoam, they’d eat that and be happy, as long as they are with their friends.

Friends is the operative word here.  We all want to be friends with you…and not just so we can have your award-winning chicken salad at the next party.  There should be more to our relationship than critiquing each other’s party themes and recipe ideas, but there is one recipe all of us have been wanting to ask you about…

Have you ever made an adult version of that party punch?

Sincerely,

Pizza Party Moms everywhere

Gabrielle


Planning Fun Family Outings With Your Kids In 7 Easy Steps

Is planning a fun family outing a chore in your household?  Today Liz, from the iFamily Mom Squad, shares some tips on how you can eliminate the chaos and put the FUN back into planning those FUN family outings!  Take a look…

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Planning An Outing With Your Kids In 7 Easy Steps:

 

The splash pads of Kansas City are some of the easiest and fun places to take your kiddos this summer! Here are 7 tips I have found that help make this summer outing a success.

1- Avoid morning chaos by packing the night before. That seems so easy but that one extra step saves much time and frustration in the morning when everything is ready to go out the door.

2- Beat the heat! A great time To head out is around 9 am before the mid- summer sun hits its peak. Also, it’s not as crowded giving you the option to choose your bench or table in the shade. The same goes for the later in the afternoon when the sun starts to fade.

3- Timing is everything! Allow enough time to play & splash before you head home for lunch and the littles need their naps.

4- The best news, splash pads are free! Just in case things don’t go as planned you will not feel guilty spending any money.

5- Give a good pep talk. I have found with my toddler, getting her to jump up out of bed in the morning is easy when I tell her we are headed to the splash pad! She is so much more cooperative In the process of heading out the door.  She also enjoys knowing what’s going on ahead of time. I let her know where we are going, how long we will stay, what I’m bringing for snacks and what else she can expect from the morning there. In turn I let her know what I expect from her.

6- What to pack.  Snacks and more snacks. I swear my daughter is only hungry when she sees other little people around her eating.  In our bag is her swimsuit, water shoes, swim diapers, hat, towel, sunscreen, water, snacks or lunch in a small cooler & an extra change of clothes for the ride home. If you don’t want to carry an exhausted child to the car after the fun than make sure you bring the stroller.

7- What does mom wear? Be comfy, it’s hot out! You can find me in a tank, shorts and flip flops and often taking my turn to cool off in the water.  If you want to wear a suit and jump in with your kiddos, go for it mama!

There are a few great splash pads around the Kansas City area! Find one that’s convenient for your family, cool off and have fun!

From iFamily to Yours,

 


Your Ultimate Guide To Surviving The End Of Summer

Oh how we all anxiously await the sweet days of summer!  Pool days, picnics, family vacations!  But as much as well all love summer, there comes the day when we begin anxiously awaiting the first day of school just as much!  Erin, from our iFamily mom squad is here with some tips on surviving the final days of summer!

A Mom’s End of Summer Survival Guide

 

So, I’m already seeing Back to School ads everywhere but there is still PLENTY of summer left in my opinion. 3 weeks for us! That’s leaves plenty of time for me to lose my mind before the big yellow bus is in view. The days are long and the years are short, am I right moms??  You LOVE your kids and would do anything and everything for them but hands up if you need a break from the crazy, chaotic days of never ending questions, fights between siblings, constant need to be entertained, and my goodness let’s not forget the snacks!  Here’s a few things to help you survive the rest of these summer days and keeping your sanity intact!

Get out of the house.

Seriously. I know it’s hot as the devil’s armpit out there but go to a spray park or go for a short walk or bike ride and bring lots of water!

Call or text a mom friend.

Ok, so maybe you can’t always get together on a whim but I love having a mom friend or two I can send a quick text or call during nap time and vent about my day.  She understands the struggle.

Have your kids help with housework.

It is a TON of work for one person to do housework and pick up after 4 people! My kids are 2 and 7 and they are learning very quickly this summer how to pick up their own rooms, wash windows, sweep, load and unload the dishwasher and conquering the mountain of laundry.  Yes, they will probably whine and not be to happy about it. But, hey,when they whine, I wine!  And they will get over it.

Wind down.

Give yourself a few hours after the kids go to bed to take care of yourself.  Take a bath, drink a glass of wine, read a book, Netflix and chill with your significant other.  8:30 and me are BFFs!  My kids NEVER STOP during the day and I will stay up late just to get that me time in.

Hey Dads this is for you.  

Give your wife a break. Take the kids somewhere for 4-6 hours or tell her “I’ve got this!” and send her on her way to do as she pleases. I have been a working mom and let me tell you there is NO job more rewarding AND more difficult than being a stay at home parent. She needs time to rejuvenate so she can continue being the best mom she can be.

 

From iFamily to Yours,