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Kansas City Renaissance Festival Sneak Peak!

Huzzah!! It is that time of year again! Fairies, Kings, Queens, wisps and everything in between can be found at one of my favorite places, the Kansas City Renaissance Festival! The biggest kickoff to the Fall season.  Bridgette, from the iFamily Mom Squad, was able to get a little first hand preview of what to expect at this years Ren Fest!  Take a look…

Kansas City Renaissance Festival Sneak Peak!

Growing up I have always wanted to take part in the Royal Court at the Ren Fest.  Being able to preview this year’s Ren Fest was a close second! Seeing everyone in their costumes, hearing the music, meeting the King and Queen, participating in the royal precession… it was so magical.  It brought back so many fond memories from my childhood. I even had my first pumpkin spice late of the season thanks to The Roasterie!

If you have never been to the Kansas City Renaissance Festival, it is a long standing tradition for the KC area filled with a variety of live shows & tournaments, unique arts and crafts and of course amazing food and drinks!

This amazing festival begins September 2nd and runs through October 15th. The only sad thing about this festival is that it is only open on Saturday and Sundays, except for Labor Day and Columbus Day. You can check their website HERE for more details on hours and even the theme of each weekend. Take note: they have a knighting ceremony in the kids’ realm too!

This year, the Ren Fest is featuring new food and drink items.  New on the menu is pulled chicken, funnel cake fries and amazing Mexican street corn! Not to mention a killer spiked apple cider beer!

Make sure you get your tickets ASAP and head out to the Annual KC Renaissance Festival!

Here are a few photos of our experience from last week. Just know, these pictures do no justice of how awesome it really is!

renaissance festival

From iFamily to Yours,

Labor Day Weekend Fun in KC!

Are you looking for something fun to do this weekend? Erin, from our iFamily Mom Squad, has got some fun things for you and your family to do this Labor Day Weekend KC!

Labor Day Weekend Fun in KC!

Wow! Does anyone else feel like summer zoomed by? School has started and the official end to summer is this weekend.  That doesn’t mean KC is slowing down by any means!  There are tons of super fun family events planned for Labor Day weekend!  Check out the list below and be sure to comment on the blog or our Facebook page with any events we may have missed!

CowTown Family Fun Fest American Royal BBQ

September 2nd, 11am -3pm. Inflatables, mechanical bull, face painting, pony rides, balloon artist, petting zoo, entertainment from Mr. Stinky Feet and much more! Adults: $23 Kids: $8.  Ages 5 and under are FREE.

Kidfest at Science City Union Station

September 2nd 10am-5pm Come to Science City for a big day of science fun including: face painting, balloon artists, petting zoo, entertainment from Rockin Rob, 7 ft hamster wheel snow cone machine. Event is free with paid Science City admission. Kids 3-12 $7


September 1st – September 4th FREE entertainment on the Main Stage and Community Stage, 400 arts, crafts and food vendors, carnival. Located on the Historic Independence Square. All activities excluding the carnival are FREE.

Dollar Days at WOF/Last Days for Oceans of Fun

September 2nd – September 4th Take a dip in the water at Oceans of Fun for the last time this season on it’s closing weekend.  Dollar Days at Worlds of Fun/Oceans of Fun with $1 hot dogs, $1 french fries, $1 donuts, $1 games and discounted merchandise.


Float down the rivers at Schlitterbahn for the last time this season on it’s closing weekend. Open September 2nd, 3rd and 4th 10am-6pm.

KC Irish Fest

September 1-3, An Irish tradition in KC, come join the fun with music and entertainment to celebrate Irish Celtic culture. Kids 3-12 $7, Friday Adult admission $10, Sat and Sun advanced adult admission $12

KC Renaissance Festival

Opens for it’s 41st season, weekends September 2nd through October 15th and Labor Day, Columbus Day. You do not want to miss out on the magic of the Kansas City Renaissance Festival!  Appeals to young and old alike. Gate admission: Adult $21.95, Child $12.95, Senior/Student $19.50 5 and under are FREE. Buy online and save. Hyvee, Walgreen’s and Menard’s offer discounted tickets. Free Parking,

Sunflowers at Grinter Farms

September 5th, Free admission, donations accepted. 40 acres of rows and rows of gorgeous sunflowers with great photo opportunities. Visit Sunflower General for baked goodies and souvenirs.

Desoto Days

August 31st, Sept 1-2. Parade, entertainment, food, carnival, classic car show and much more! Free admission.

Fiesta KC

Presented by the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, located in the Power and Light District, Fiesta KC is in its 18th year of celebration. Music, food and live entertainment. Tortilla flinging contest. Families welcome! Admission $10. Kids 12 and under are free with a paid parent admission.

From iFamily to Yours,

Fix, Freeze and Feast on Taco Tuesdays!

Who doesn’t love Taco Tuesday’s to add a little fiesta into the week!  Check out these yummy recipes from Liz, with the iFamily Mom Squad, to spice up your menu!

taco tuesday's

Fix, Freeze and Feast on Tuesdays!

Last week’s meal prep was Mexican cuisine! I made a quick and inexpensive trip to Aldi’s and loaded up on veggies, chicken, beef, rice and black beans! Prepping for a few Mexican meals is super easy and loved by the entire family! In a short time I was able to prep a few meals including, chicken fajitas, beef fajitas, cilantro lime chicken and extra corn/tomatoes/ black beans and onions for future chicken bowls and burritos.

Here are the yummy recipes that I prepped! For quick organization I made my shopping list of exactly how much of everything I needed. All the recipes are similar, it’s easy to shop quickly and convenient to prep extra.

Cilantro Lime Chicken

1 ½ pounds boneless, skinless chicken breasts

1 (15 ounce) can black beans, drained and rinsed

1 (10 ounce can) mild diced tomatoes and green chilies

1 cup of corn kernels, frozen, canned or roasted

½ cup salsa, homemade or store-bought

½ cup chopped fresh cilantro leaves

1 red diced onion, 1 diced jalapeno,

2 teaspoons cumin, 2 teaspoons chili powder, 4 cloves garlic minced

Juice of 2 limes

Combine all ingredients together to freeze in a gallon-sized freezer bag or add to your slow cooker. Cover and cook on low heat for 7-8 hours or high heat for 3-4 hours.

Variety of ways to serve this meal! I sometimes make it without adding the cilantro and lime juice. You can shred the chicken or cut into cubes. We eat ours over brown rice for a tasty chicken bowl.

Beef or Chicken Fajitas

2 pounds of boneless beef chuck shoulder roast or boneless chicken breasts

2 red bell peppers, sliced

1 small onion, peeled and sliced

1 tablespoon of honey,

2 cloves of garlic, minced

Juice from 1 lime

1 tablespoon chili powder, 2 teaspoons cumin, 1 teaspoon paprika,

¼ crushed red pepper flakes

Combine all ingredients together to freeze in a gallon-sized freezer bag or add to your slow cooker. Cover.  Cook on low heat for 6-8 hours or high heat for 3-4 hours, beef should shred easily with a fork.

Spice up these meals by topping the ingredients with a bed of lettuce. Add more veggies, shredded cheese, greek yogurt (a healthy version of sour cream) and avocados for a yummy taco salad! Or serve with tortillas and rice!

I hope these recipes save your life and some time with the craziness of the start of school, enjoy!

From iFamily to yours,








Why every kid should have a lemonade stand

Who can forget the excitement of having a lemonade stand as a child?  Not only is it a fun way for kids to be able to earn some spending money, it also teaches them some great life lessons!  Bridgette, from the iFamily Mom Squad, is here to share some of the things your kiddos can learn while running their own lemonade stand!  Take a look…

Why every kid should have a lemonade stand

Over the past several months we have been planning our lemonade stand. I had one growing up and I loved it! Once I presented the idea to my kiddos, they were all on board! So, we started our summer project goal to set one up.

It wasn’t until the kids and I started putting all the things we needed together that it really hit me. Every kid should do this! Outside the aspect of having fun and making money, a lemonade stand teaches our kids so much!


It teaches kids how to organize their needs and wants for their stand, plan where they want to set it up and put together an idea of how they want it to look. They get to unleash their creativeness when coming up with color schemes, drinks and baked goods.


Knowing that they will need to buy certain supplies will give them the opportunity to practice budgeting. I wanted to keep ours under a certain dollar amount (since I was footing the upfront costs lol) and with knowing what they needed and how much we had to spend, they were able to find ways to not only make it look nice but also make sure we stayed within the budget.

Customer Service

A lemonade stand shows kids how to serve others and take pride in what they are serving. If a cup fell on the ground they would throw it away. They wouldn’t want to drink out of a dirty cup themselves so why would they want someone else too?


They had to get their business out there! So whenever we visited family or friends, they were sure to tell them about it! On the day of the sale, they had help from dad with posting flyers in high traffic areas to reach a lot of people. They also created a fun atmosphere that would draw the attention of passerbyers.

Dealing with Rejection

Nobody wants their kids to be rejected, but sometimes.. It just happens. Not everyone that came by wanted to purchase something. At first they didn’t understand fully why, but once I explained and how they should respond, they easily grasped the idea of “keep moving forward.”. They simply responded with a “thank you” and a smile and went on to the next customer.


This was their stand! Of course mom, dad and nana helped out but at the end of the day, this was their stand. Once it was set up and they were in business, they took so much pride in what they had created and what they were offering.

My kiddos loved having a lemonade stand and they were very successful! As soon as we sold out and closed up shop, they picked up their stand and went straight inside to start planning on what they could buy lol. Having a lemonade stand has pretty much become a right of passage when growing up. If you are able to have one or anything similar, I strongly encourage you to help your child make this opportunity happen! You will both feel proud and have memories that will last forever!

Need a few tips on how to have a successful lemonade stand? You can read all about ours HERE and all about how my kiddos were able to bring in some big bank for theirs this past weekend!

From iFamily to Yours,

Eclipse Recap 2017

If you were able to experience the very rare Eclipse that occurred on August 21st we’re sure you have your own story to tell!  Bridgette, from the iFamily Mom Squad, shares her own experience of the 2017 Eclipse!

Eclipse 2017

Eclipse 2017

To everyone that missed the eclipse… Bella chose Edward. Sorry, I’ve seen that little joke online and I couldn’t resist sharing it! But seriously though, August 21st the KC metro area experienced something very spectacular yet odd at the same time. I’m talking about the eclipse!

With plans for my kiddos and I to head to City Market to enjoy all the eclipse festivities, we had a quick change in plans as the rain came in. So, we opted for our rooftop view at our loft instead.

As we arrived upstairs, the sky covered with clouds, we were unsure what we would expect. While we sat and waited for the sun to disappear, we talked about what we thought it was going to look like. But mostly the kids wondered why we didn’t bring their bathing suits up to the pool lol.
So, as they say and snacked on their sun or star inspired snacks, I looked around and tried to soak up the moment.

As I looked around the rooftop at all the spectators, I noticed a few things.

The excitement

I have never been around so many people that were excited to see something that’s not sports related. Sure, I have been to games where everyone is excited for a win or player, but never for something that is a natural part of life.

The calmness

While everyone was excited, there was a natural calmness that put off an odd feeling. Everyone was enjoying themselves and their neighbor, laughing and sharing their excitement, but calm at the same time. It is hard to explain really.. But imagine going to the super bowl and everyone is whispering. That’s kind of how it felt. You know everyone is excited and waiting for that moment to happen, but it’s also calm and pretty quiet.

The brightness

There were so many clouds that afternoon that it felt like fall and it was going to rain again at any moment. Yet the sun was beaming brighter than ever. For a moment, it looked as if everyone on the roof was under a huge spotlight.

Once the sun was completely covered and the ring around the moon emerged, we looked up and seen something beautiful, for less than one minute. As an adult, I knew it wouldn’t last all day and given our location at the time, I knew that automatic lights would definitely turn on and therefore “lighten” our surroundings.

Unfortunately for my kiddos, being as young as they were, may have had different expectations. Once the sun was fully eclipsed and they took a look, they were pretty much over it. My 4 year old said “ cool mommy it’s gone”, my 6 year old said “that’s it?” and my 9 year old said “ok can we go back inside now” lol. I didn’t really know how to react! When we were prepping for eclipse day, they seemed a lot more excited and couldn’t wait to see what was going to happen! But once it did, they were ready to move on. I later found out that they were upset because they thought it was going to be completely dark like it was on T.V.


Over all, seeing the eclipse was pretty cool and the anticipation around it was pretty fun! I can’t tell you how many DIY’s for eclipse viewers I saw for at least 2 weeks on social media lol. But honestly, I think I will remember my atmosphere more. The feelings I felt when walking onto the roof, observing everyone around me and feeling of complete calmness.
Did you get to experience the eclipse? How was it?!

Oh yea.. Here is the ONLY picture I got from that moment so don’t feel bad if you didn’t get a great one lol.

From iFamily to Yours,


From Freezer to Crock Pot!

With the business of back to school, thinking about dinner is sometimes the last thing on your mind!  These freezer to crock pot meals from Liz, with our iFamily Mom Squad, will help make dinners easy and delicious!

Crock Pot Meals


This whole straight from the freezer to crockpot situation is A-MAZING.
Moms- this is a game-changer. As a mom of a small family of 4 who doesn’t care much for cooking, freezer meals make me feel like a super hero. Why spend more time in the kitchen when you can throw food in the crock pot and it smells like you have been slaving in the kitchen all day?

1- All you do is prep your food.
2- Throw contents in a 1 gallon-sized plastic freezer bag. Label your bag with the name of meal, cooking instructions and “use by date”. Standard is 3 months from prep date. Remove as much air from bag as possible, seal, and lay flat in your freezer.
3- Freeze.
4-The night before cooking, move it to the refrigerator to thaw.
5- Dump it into your crock pot and wait.

These meals taste amazing and work great for leftovers! I finally gave into trying this when I was 38 weeks pregnant earlier this year and now freezer meals are my life. And so far they have all been toddler approved.

Here are some of my favorites! Enjoy!

Cheesy Tortellini with Ground Beef (serve with steamed broccoli)

Yields: 4 servings

1 pound lean ground beef
1 small yellow onion, diced (one cup)
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 (28-ounce) can crushed tomatoes
1 (14.5-ounce) can diced tomatoes and green chiles, undrained
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
1/2 teaspoon dried basil
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
1 (19-ounce) package frozen cheese tortellini *not needed until day of cooking
4 oz. mozzarella cheese, shredded (one cup) *not needed until day of cooking
2 oz. cheddar cheese, shredded (1/2 cup) *not needed until day of cooking

1. Add all ingredients to freezer bag except tortellini and cheeses.

1.On “low” setting for 8 hours or until beef is cooked through.
2. Break apart beef and stir.
3. Add tortellini and top with cheeses. Cover and cook on low heat for an additional 15 minutes, or until pasta is tender.

Serve with steamed broccoli.

Note: You can also freeze shredded cheese in a separate freezer bag. Thaw it overnight and store in the refrigerator until it’s time to add it to the crockpot.

Honey Dijon Pork Chops with Green Beans (serve with brown rice)

Yields: 6 servings

1 pound boneless pork chops
1 pound frozen green beans
1/4 cup honey
2 tablespoons Dijon mustard
2 teaspoons black pepper
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground thyme
1/2 cup water* not needed until day of cooking

1. Add all ingredients to your freezer bag (except water).

1. Add contents and water.
2. Cook on “low” setting for 4-6 hours or until pork is cooked through.

Slow Cooker Cranberry Chicken (serve with brown rice and green beans)

Yields: 6 servings

1 small onion, diced
14oz can whole cranberry sauce
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 tablespoons honey
2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar
2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
2 pounds boneless, skinless chicken breasts

1. Add chicken to the freezer bag last so it’s the first ingredient poured into your crockpot.

1. Cook on “low” setting for 4-6 hours, or until chicken is cooked through.

Slow Cooker Chicken Noodle Soup

Yields: 6 servings

1 pound boneless skinless chicken breasts, cut into bite sized pieces
1/2 lb. carrots, peeled and diced (4 large)
1 cup celery, diced (2 large ribs or 4 small ribs)
1 small yellow onion, diced (one cup)
1 teaspoon garlic powder
1 teaspoon dried basil
1 teaspoon dried oregano
1 bay leaf
1/4 teaspoon pepper
8 oz. wide egg noodles *not needed until day of cooking
8 cups fat-free low sodium chicken broth *not needed until day of cooking

1. Add all ingredients except noodles and broth.

1. Add contents to crockpot with 8 cups of chicken broth.
2. Cook for 6-8 hours on “low” setting or until carrots are soft.
3. Add pasta and cook for an additional 15 minutes.
4. Remove bay leaf.


From iFamily to Yours,


Make Yourself A Morning Mom!

Some mornings are just plain hard.  Hard to get out of bed, hard to mom, hard to anything.  You are not alone!  Make yourself a morning mom with these great tips from Liz, with our iFamily Mom Squad!

Make Yourself a Morning Mom!

Do you have those mornings where the blankets have taken them as one of you and you would do anything to turn the clock back 2 hours?

I recently have been trying daily to make myself a “morning person”. I have had my struggles it’s and not something I really enjoy doing, but I love the feeling of having woke early before anyone else. The feeling I love even more is getting ahead of the day before I hear the pitter patter of feet. I want to share some snooze- proof tips on making waking up easier than ever before.

Give yourself a reason to wake up early:

Plan to do something you love during your early mornings. My favorites are getting in a workout, reading a few pages of a really good book and enjoying my coffee alone. The night before I layout my clothes and my at home workout program is in the DVD player ready to press play. I am a nursing mama to a 3 month old so my pump and my book waiting for me. And most importantly the coffee cup is sitting under the Kurig ready to press start.

Every night before bed consciously decided to have a positive morning experience.

Move Your Alarm Clock Across The Room:

If you haven’t already, try moving your alarm clock as far from your bed as possible. This will force your body out of bed and to get moving. Motion creates energy and this movement will help you naturally wake up.

Another idea is to buy an old fashioned digital clock. This will help from grabbing your phone and start the mindless scrolling on Facebook (guilty).

Start your day with mindless activities:

Doing a few mindless activities will give your body time to wake up. Go straight to your bathroom sink, brush your teeth and splash some water on your face. This simple activity will increase your wake up motivation to start your day.

Feeling even a little dehydrated can cause fatigue, so make sure you hydrate yourself first thing every morning to get your body and mind going. Try drinking warm lemon water in the morning to help flush the digestive system and hydrate the body. Lemons contain Vitamin C and drinking it in the morning gives the body a chance to absorb these vitamins and provide a little immune boost. Have you ever heard the quote “I exercise before my brain knows what I am doing”? Yep, this is the best time to get that workout done when you are in the mindless phase.

Don’t wait to try this! Start tonight by moving your alarm clock across the room, setting a glass of water on your nightstand and commit to your early morning rising! Try just waking up a few more minutes each morning and set the tone for a more peaceful, organized and productive day.

From iFamily to Yours,


Fun Alternatives To Cupcakes For School Birthdays

Celebrating school birthdays can be a challenge with all the restrictions due to allergies and regulations regarding pre-packaged snacks and treats. So what is a mom to do when she can’t bake her usual homemade treats for school? Maybe you just want to err on the healthier side? Here are a few ideas from Ruth, with the iFamily Mom Squad, to make your child’s birthday a success without providing pre-packaged cupcakes or cupcakes at all-if your school allows them.

Fun Alternatives To Cupcakes For School Birthdays

DIY snacks.

If you are in the mood to be a bit creative you can bring in individual DIY treats. Maybe your child loves fruit or cheese crackers, you can work with that. Look up some fun food crafts online that kids can easily build themselves in a few minutes. Pinterest has some great ideas for food crafts such as these healthy snail and caterpillar snacks: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/128000814388908906/ If you base the snack off of foods and themes your child loves, then the activity is bound to be a winner!

Birthday make and take crafts.

If you want to steer away from sweet treats or food for any reason, you can supply a craft project instead. Talk with your teacher in advance to see if you can supply a special craft activity in place of edibles to celebrate your child’s birthday. You can base it off of favorite characters that your child likes or you can do something strictly birthday related. Local stores carry kid craft kits or you can explore ideas that you find online. Last year I printed off pictures of birthday cakes on to cardstock paper for kids to color and cut, added string so they could wear them as hats. While they were making crafts I read them Happy Birthday to you, pop up edition by Dr. Seuss.

Make a classroom donation

In honor of your child’s birthday you can donate fun things to the classroom. Be sure to involve your little one in the process. Have them choose some books to add to the class library or a new game. You could even pick out something from your teacher’s wish list!

Have the class personalize an item.

Have your child’s class personalize a hoody, apron, poster or other item for their birthday. Fabric markers, sharpies, stickers and so on work well for this. Peers can draw pictures, write messages or sign names as a fun way to commemorate the occasion.

For more ideas relating to birthday ideas you can search on the internet for non-food birthday celebrations at school or check out this PDF: http://www.cpschools.com/Schools/NHP/pdfs/nonfoodcelebrations.pdf

From iFamily to Yours,


Simple Ways To Support Your Child’s Teacher

Between packing lunches, homework, keeping track of all of the permission slips and forms that get sent home, our kids extra curricular activities, etc etc., it’s easy to get overwhelmed with the day to day things!  As overwhelmed as keeping up can sometimes seem to be we all want to show our support to our child’s teacher.  Here are some tips from Gabrielle, with the iFamily Mom Squad, on simple ways you can do just that!  Take a look…


Simple Ways to Support Your Child’s Teacher

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. The sun doesn’t seem to shine as long, or burn as hot as it did just a few weeks ago. Swimsuits and shorts are on clearance (Hooray) Back to school season is here and before we know it, the air will have just a bit of a chill and smell of pumpkin spice.

It won’t be long before our children are coming home with those little parent teacher conference notes. Between now and then, though, it’s a good idea to foster communication between parent and teacher. We are partners in educating tomorrow’s leaders. Here are a few simple ways to support local classroom teachers.


Buy the recommended school supplies. I know. This one is hard for me too. I have no idea why my one child needs 16 glue sticks and 48 pencils, but I buy them anyway. Some of you coupon-savvy moms are getting the pens and crayons for free, anyway. Donate them to the classroom. There will always be a student whose parents could not afford or could not find the recommended items. And there is one kid whose entire Crayola stash will be broken into pieces by October. (That might be one of my kids.)


If the teacher sends a note home, acknowledge the correspondence. If he or she calls, texts or emails, respond at your earliest convenience. You know how anxious you get when you don’t get a response to an inquiry for more than a week? Multiply that times about 25, or however many children that teacher deals with daily.

If you have a concern about your child’s school work, social skills, or even a health issue, let the teacher know. They may have insight. Last year, I had both my kids’ teachers on speed dial. I probably annoyed them. I even called one on her day off, while she was mourning the loss of a loved one and felt horrible afterwards, but she was incredibly forgiving.


Parent Teacher Student Organizations are for the mutual benefit of the parents, the teachers, and the students. These organizations plan activities, raise funds, and offer support on an as needed basis. If you are unsure how to best support your child’s classroom teacher, the PTSO is a great place to start. Membership fees are generally small, but your support is priceless.


If the teacher goes above the call of duty, (and for the most part, they do), let them know that you noticed. If your child makes great strides in a particular class, send a thank you note. Teachers are mostly overworked and underpaid. A word of encouragement goes a long way, but I’m sure the teachers would also appreciate any kind gesture. My go-to gift is a gift card for lunch or coffee… because I need coffee to deal with my three. I can only imagine how much caffeine is required to deal with a classroom of 30.

From iFamily to Yours,


The Newlyweds Guide To The First Few Years

The wedding bells have rung, Now what!?  Here is Sarah, from the iFamily Mom Squad, with her Newlyweds Guide to the First Few Years!  Take a look…


A Newlyweds Guide to the First Few Years…

Summer is almost over and it seems that most of the summer was spent at weddings, wedding showers or engagement parties! This got me to thinking that all you newlyweds out there may need some advice from someone who has been there!

Seems like the most amazing moment in your life doesn’t it? You have walked down the aisle, you had the most expensive cake that you will ever eat and shuddered as some just ate the icing and threw the rest away. You opened all the presents, the thank-you cards are addressed and sent.

Now what?

You are sitting on the couch with this person with whom you had it all figured out just a few weeks ago and bam! You don’t know what to do now! It’s called the coming down; suddenly your single friends are a little more hesitant to hang out with you. Your married friends are so happy for you both and “let’s do dinner” or “movie night at our house” seems to be the norm. Plus they just announced that they are pregnant! Which really means in bed by 9 and it really isn’t the same when you host a “mock”tail party. A caveat; I am no expert. My only expertise is that I was a newlywed once and maybe picked up a few things along the way. And maybe this will sound nothing like you and your spouse and that’s fine too. Still, read it for just the humor and the fact that you can laugh at all the poor souls that are going through this while you are out at the new club opening with your husband in tow!

Remember when

…you were just dating and the question at every family holiday was “when are you getting engaged!” “You know, you aren’t getting any younger! What are you waiting for?!” You could laugh them off and look into your spouse’s eyes and laugh as you are pinning wedding ring designs to your secret Pinterest board. Well now comes the question; “When are you guys going to have a baby!?” “You know, you aren’t getting any younger! What are you waiting for?!” Here is your first tip: DON’T RUSH THINGS. I know you aren’t getting any younger, I know that your biological clock is no longer ticking, it is now banging so loud in your head that you can’t sleep at night. Just like you did before; laugh it off. Spend time with you and your spouse, if babies are in your future, you will NEVER get this opportunity again so enjoy it. Travel to places that you have never been, redecorate the house together, go see an afternoon movie—just go see a movie! And if that biological gong is still going off, get a dog, a puppy if possible. One sleepless night of taking the whining puppy out every two hours will shatter that thing within a day.

So what?

Some little elves on a break from the North Pole came down and rebuilt that biological clock (gong)? Talk about it; make sure you are all on the same page. And then talk about it with a close friend, preferably one that has already had a baby. Let them tell you how it was for them and what to expect. I would bet you a jar of pickles and a tub of ice cream that you don’t know everything about it! And then you can start trying to have a baby.

Here’s your second tip:

DON’T RUSH IT! I am the biggest control freak, I just knew that I could plan everything out: when I would get pregnant, which would lead to when I had the baby (not in July—too many holidays and birthdays) which would mean that I would need baby showers in February and May taking the most pictures at the one in February because you are still in the “glow” and not so much in the “I am ready for this child to come out of me—somehow—I don’t care how!” phase (Every woman gets there, don’t even try to tell me you don’t!) But you know what all that planning does? It makes for a really rough time when that timeline doesn’t work out. Even worse when it doesn’t happen in two months, in 8 months, in a year. You feel worthless, like you have no idea what you are doing and how to fix it. What if there is something wrong? What if I am not making the right decision? You know why that happens? Because this is exactly what motherhood is like! Get used to it kiddo—this is your life for a really long time! It will happen and if it doesn’t there are plenty of other options to make sure that your little family is complete. They just may not be as you planned it.

The world works in mysterious ways…

It takes all kinds of kinds to make it spin round. All along the first years of marriage be thankful for what you have. Once the pitter patter, by the way whoever said that never had kids, I have never known my children to pitter patter at anything! It used to be that silence was golden to me, now silence means that there is a jar of finger nail polish all over the little sister and the dog and the walls. Anyway, when little ones come it is going to be harder for you to remember to be thankful—not that you aren’t, just you will be busy trying to do everything else.

From iFamily to Yours,